Positive thinking is the mental attitude in which you expect good and favorable outcomes. So, if you think positive everything will be great, right? Wrong. Bad things happen to good people, but if you look hard enough you can realize that there is something good in every situation. For instance, let’s take a look at a situation that happened to me years ago…
My family drove to Georgia to visit my brother and his family. We packed the car had a great trip through a couple of states and got down to his house without any problems, so we thought.
As we were pulling into his driveway, the vehicle check engine light came on. We had just had the car serviced before leaving home so we couldn’t understand what the problem could have been.
Now, we (my husband and me) had two choices – (1) get mad at the service person that serviced our car who obviously missed something OR (2) Be thankful that we made it to my brother’s house before the check engine light came on instead of it happening out on the highway leaving us stranded. Did I like the fact that we had to deal with this situation while on vacation? NO. I (we) had a choice on which path we were going to take ~ negative or positive thinking. (I think in this case my husband had enough negative thinking for the both of us…).
Negative Vibes Not Wanted
Have you ever been around someone who always complains about their life and all of the mishaps that have happened? All they talk about are terrible things they “think” has only happened to them.
You start to realize that their negative thought process affects a lot of different aspect of their life.
- They look unhappy.
- They are sickly (headaches, stomachaches, etc.).
- They rarely have good things to say about anything or anyone.
I have people that I work with and even family members who think like this each and every day.
You have to choose to both be around them and work hard not to allow their negative thoughts rub off on you. The other choice is to distance yourself from them.
I decided a long time ago that I would not distance myself but instead continue to bring positive thoughts to their life. Every time my family member says something negative, I always try and come back with something positive. That usually stops the negativity ~ at least until the next phone call ~~
You can’t choose your family, you just have to LOVE them.
Woe Is Me….Whatever…
Now, do I have a perfect, 100% of the time positive thought process?
Too many times I find myself sighing and thinking…
you have to be kidding me, I have to come up with another meal to cook? or
I have to wash another load of clothes?
When I feel myself getting into this pattern, I stop in my tracks and think
you should be thankful that you have food to cook, a family to cook for and a home to cook it in.
Now, I know that this is small, but that’s kind of the point – you have to start with the small stuff so that you have a solid foundation on the way that you process your thoughts. If you have this solid foundation, you will be able to make it through anything.
I figured out the older I get the more I understand that there are things in this world that you can’t change, so focus on those things that you can change ~ mainly your thought process.
Focus on the Positive
I want to leave you with a couple of things to think about:
~The next time you catch yourself thinking something negative either about a situation or about yourself, stop and write down all of the good things currently in your life.
~Focus on what works in your life, not what doesn’t.
~Realize that you can’t change everything, but you can change your thought process
I just love this quote from Abraham Lincoln because it is so true…
“We Can Complain Because Rose Bushes Have Thorns or Rejoice Because Thorn Bushes Have Roses.”
Until next time ~ positive thinking!